Who the book is for
For people who struggle with the past of someone they love and want to understand what's happening, for those with a partner who feels this jealousy, and for professionals who work with these cases.
The book doesn't replace assessment or treatment, but it organizes what's known about the subject in direct language.
What you'll find
- What separates the jealousy that protects from the jealousy that destroys.
- The jealousy cycle: trigger, thought, distress, search for relief.
- Comparison, the sexual past, the search for certainty and digital detective work.
- The difference between boundaries and control, and what to do when there was real betrayal.
- The PRO Method applied to jealousy, stage by stage.
- A thirty-day challenge, with one step a day.
The book and the app
The Before Me app turns the same ideas into short video lessons with Dr. Yuri, crisis tools and a 30-day program. The book goes deeper for those who want it.
Where to get it
The English edition, Before Me: Jealousy, comparison and the past of the one we love, is available as a Kindle e-book on Amazon. The book page on this site has the link.
What to do today
- Read the book page on this site.
- Start with the chapter on the jealousy cycle.
- Do day one of the thirty-day challenge.
Phrases to keep
- Separating the jealousy that protects from the one that destroys.
- Thirty days, one step a day.
- The same ideas, in the app and in the book.
Frequently asked questions
Is Before Me available in English?
Yes. The English edition is available as a Kindle e-book on Amazon.
Do I need to read the book to use the app?
No. The app guides you day by day. The book goes deeper for those who want it.
This content is educational and does not replace professional assessment, diagnosis or treatment. If you are in crisis or thinking about suicide, call your local emergency number now. In the US, call or text 988; in the UK and Ireland, call Samaritans at 116 123.