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Test: do I have retroactive jealousy?

Twelve questions, two minutes. Your answers stay in your browser.

This is not a diagnosis. By Dr. Yuri Busin, psychologist.

01I ask about my partner's past again, even when I already know the answer.
02I go to my partner's exes' social media to check something.
03Images of my partner's romantic or sexual past appear without me wanting them to.
04I compare my body, my experience or my worth with whoever came before me.
05Places, trips, songs or dates linked to their past ruin good moments.
06I mentally replay old conversations and sentences looking for inconsistencies.
07I ask for reassurance, like do you love me more?, that calms me only briefly.
08When I get an answer, another doubt soon follows.
09These thoughts take up more than an hour of my day.
10I've thought about breaking up just to make this pain stop.
11Jealousy about the past has already disrupted my sleep, my work or my sex life.
12My partner has changed what they tell me, or avoids subjects, so as not to upset me.

This test is educational and does not replace professional assessment. If you are in crisis or thinking about suicide, call your local emergency number now. In the US, call or text 988; in the UK and Ireland, call Samaritans at 116 123.

Frequently asked questions

Does this test give a diagnosis?

No. It helps you recognize signs of retroactive jealousy and decide on next steps. Only a professional can assess your case.

Are my answers sent anywhere?

No. The calculation happens in your browser and nothing is stored or sent.